Our Love for Psycho-Dramas

August 30, 2020
Emmanuel F. Silan, PhD
Psycho-dramas are defense mechanisms for psycho-emotional issues.

Psycho-drama is a loose term we use for our psycho-emotional issues that result to defense mechanisms. Examples of which include authority issue, poor-me and victim mentality, entitlement issue, projection, regression, denial, compensation, and a host of other mechanisms. Generally, we - specifically our unconscious minds - resort to them for day-to-day survival of our sense of identity.

A lot of "psycho-dramas" are deeply embedded in our mind - both consciously and mostly unconsciously. Unfortunately, like marinated barbecue meat, or special ham, or vintage wine, they are "nourished" for decades!

Getting rid of them is like getting rid of a torn piece of shirt, or a childhood stuffed toy, that we dearly love. So one day we threw them in the garbage can, and then took them back immediately.  

The path is long, winding, and challenging when it comes to personal transformation. Even if we know that these defense mechanisms have already outgrown their usefulness.

Of course, some people who decide to leave their psycho-dramas in the past were able to do so in an instance of realization. That their current lives need not be haunted by ghosts and demons of the past. Acknowledging these defense mechanisms for what they are, and knowing that they have better options to deal with present challenges.

So find your reason for being, your life meaning. When you do, you will find it easier to deal with your psycho-dramas. You can then leave them inside your closet and wish them fare-thee-well.

That is the day your soul will totally be free - and be able to live and appreciate your Now, and have more faith in the future.

I wish you freedom: that your soul may soar across infinity.

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About the author

Emmanuel F. Silan, PhD

NLP Coach and Counselor/ Human Behavior and Communications Specialist/ NLP Master Trainer (IN) and Coaching Master Trainer (ICI) / Organization Development Consultant/ Highly Experienced Team Building Facilitator/ Certified NLP Instructor and Master Practitioner/ has MA in Instruction Development and Technology/ PhD in Organization Development/ and currently taking Master in Counseling Psychology at  Ateneo de Manila University.